How To Get Motivated To Lose Weight

Top 10 Tips For a How to Get Motivated and be in the best shape ever! 

I am a mum and the question many women and fellow mums ask me  often is ” How to Get Motivated?”

It may be that you have just become a mum, or you have put on a lot of weight , or are busy with work and are really struggling with how to get motivated?

Do you not know how to get motivated to lose weight or get into shape post pregnancy?

Do you need to find your self motivation and give yourself a kick start.

Do you feel that all the information in cyberspace is just information overload?
Do you just what some tips from someone who has been in your shoes, who really knows how you are feeling and the challenges you face as a mum?

Well read on because you really have come to the right place. Let me explain why a tell you a it about me:

I’m Paulette, if this is one of the first post you are reading about me let me briefly introduce myself.I am 45 year old Mum,who runs my own business as a  Personal Trainer , Group exercise Trainer, Nutrition and Healthy Eating  Coach. However the most important role I hold is that of a mum to my wonderful daughter Ayana.

That is a picture of me below on stage in a Fitness Model/Bikini model competition. I only started to compete at the tender age of 39!!

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As a mum and business woman I know how difficult it is to raise a family,work and still look and feel healthy and vibrant  all year round.

And that’s without the added pressure society and Social media can have on us. it’s challenging isn’t it? Especially if you do not know how to get motivated.

It might seem impossible to juggle everything but it is possible, it really is possible to get that year round body that you desire and it is possible without any crash diets, silly fads that don’t work, or using silly expensive gadgets that can cause you injury.

I know all to well how difficult it can be, and this is why I want to share with you, my

Top 10, how To Get Motivated To Lose Weight Tips .

These tips were invaluable to me when I first became a mum, first started my own business and most definitely the first time I decided to enter a fitness model competition.I know without following each and everyone, I would not have achieved the body shape I am in today.

Feel free to print these out and refer back to them daily and please help any others you know who need help to get motivated and share away on your Social Media platforms.

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How to get motivated to Lose Weight Tip 1. This is the most important tip and I cannot stress without this happening you will not get far in any goals you set.
Get your mindset to where it needs to be today, tomorrow, forever. Simply saying to yourself that you want to lose weight, lose body fat, get into shape is not enough and will not cut it. Millions of people everyday all over the world say this to themselves time and time again ,you may even be guilty of this However very few are really ready mentally and emotionally to make the real sacrifices and lifestyle changes to do it once and for all.
Lifestyle changes, not fads and not short term fixes.
If you continue to do the same things in your life that you have always done then you will continue to get exactly the same results. You must be ready to make life long changes not for the next week, month or year, for the rest of your life.
Once you are really prepared to do this you are on your way.
Actions will always speak louder than words, always.

How to get motivated to lose weight Tip 2. Stop the blame game; if you are over the age of 18, YOU are responsible for how you look. You are 100% responsible for all the choices that you make. Period!

How to get motivated to lose weight Tip 3. Positivity is infectious .Immediately stop using words such as” I want” “I wish” replace these with “I will” “I am going to”

How to get motivated to lose weight Tip 4. Start to use lists. Start by writing a list of positive but realistic and achievable statements such as:

  • “I am going to lose 2 pounds in weight in the next 7 days.
  • “I will workout for at least 40 minutes, 3 times a week. I am worth this”
  • “I am going to take progress pictures weekly to show how well I am doing”
  • “When I fit into my new slim fit jeans I will treat myself ”
Write Your List NOW !

Do your list now Before you read Tip 5 & then come back. Prove to yourself just how serious you really are this time. Remember Tip 1, Actions speak louder than words

How to get motivated to lose weight Tip 5. Actively work towards each goal on your list daily. Now that you have your  list  use it. Start by making copies of your list, keep one with you daily and refer to it many times throughout the day, put a copy up any everywhere that will be a focal point for you throughout your day. This could be on the front of your refrigerator,  kitchen cupboard wardrobe, on your work place desk or keyboard. In fact put copies up anywhere that will be a great motivation to lose weight tool for you.

How to get motivated to lose weight Tips 6-10

How to get motivated to lose weight Tip 6. Tell as many people as possible what you are doing. Give them a copy of your list. Those that want to see you succeed will be a massive support to you. They will ask you often how you are doing, be genuinely interested in your progress. You will even find you inspire others to join you on their own lifestyle journey.

How to get motivated to lose weight Tip 7. For every one person that you inspire you will come across many more that cannot do what you are doing.
The naysayer’s .Do not under any circumstances entertain them.
Sadly they may be aplenty. The strength you are showing in taking control of your body, your life, will show up their own failings and their own inability to do the same. Do not allow anyone to deviate you away from your goals. Focus and surround yourself only with like minded positive people.


How to get motivated to lose weight Tip 8. STOP!! Before looking at any changes that you may feel you need to with your exercise regime. Look first and foremost at your nutrition.  Nutrition is the Boss. It is the key to seeing the major changes with your body. Over 80% of what you need to change to get into the best shape of your life will be nutrition related so give it that importance every day.
If like the vast majority of people I talk with, you are suffering from information overload on nutrition then do as I did, find one nutrition solution/program that has a good reputation for lifestyle results not short term weight loss crashes and when you find it stick with it. The results of such a program will be steady, achievable, long term and not leave you feeling weak, or lethargic.

How to get motivated to lose weight Tip 9: Get recommendations’ either from a friend, or by doing your own research online for a respected ,effective nutrition program with a proven track record of success, which is lifestyle changing and must also have a money back guarantee.
Look at pictures, of others who have followed the program, a picture says a thousand words.

Should have listened to mom

How to get motivated to lose weight Tip 10: Make sure the nutrition program you follow promotes life long healthy eating not just for you but also your family. As a mom you do not have time nor should you have to be preparing one meal for you and another for the rest of your family. A truly effective nutrition program will not have any specials shakes, bars or soups that you need to buy. Healthy eating should be and is for the whole family. One family, one shopping list.
You will see major changes to your body just by following an effective nutrition program that promotes lifestyle ,healthy, nutrition changes Some of the changes will be: a flatter stomach, elimination of stomach bloating ,toned legs, a toned butt, clearer skin,healthy looking  hair, more energy, the list is endless and these will be just by making healthy changes to your nutrition. You can expect to see and feel many of theses changes within the first week.

I really could have added another 10 further tips but I believe these ten are the foundation that you need to truly kick start your journey to a year round body that you are comfortable and happy with. I did it and so can you.

If you would like me to help you then why not sign up for my bikini body 12 week plan to get you that body you deserve.

I created my bikini body plan to help fellow mums and to show you can get your body into the greatest shape ever without crash dieting or endless exercise.

Sign up today and get on track with your health and fitness goals.

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Paulette Sybliss



How To Stay Motivated

diet tip Many of my new clients come to me as they want to achieve fitness goals. Now many lack the motivation to do this themselves and that is ok, however many actually do have some motivation and are excited in the beginning but very soon they are struggling with how to stay motivated.

How to stay motivated?

I think we can all relate to this in some form, take New Year resolutions they are so are exciting in the beginning. However, as time goes by and the initial excitement wanes, the toll of maintaining the effort starts to wear on most people. Can you relate to this?

You have lost the excitement and your resolution becomes nothing more than a daily grind and you find yourself asking the question over and over in your mind ‘how to stay motivated?’

So why does this happen, and how can you rectify this so it doesn’t become a vicious circle in your life?

how to stay motivated

Well first the main reason it happens lies in the fact that achieving anything of any value requires work, commitment, persistence, perseverance and patience. It’s not easy to keep doing what you have to do to get to where you want to be.

Losing motivation is one of the main reasons you and others quit. But what you need to understand is how to stay motivated. Motivating yourself is not a one-time thing.  The famous motivational speaker, Zig Ziglar, once said, “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.”

This is so important and you must never lose sight of this EVER. You must constantly motivate yourself every day or every few days to keep up the excitement and vision of your goal. If not, you will lose interest and the entire process will become torture. I recommend taking each day at a time and breaking it down even further. Stop thinking about the final results you want to achieve that may be months away, start to think about smaller goals and give yourself a pat on the back every time you achieve them.

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For example, you will know that sticking to any diet is the toughest part of any body transformation goal but plays a massive part in obtaining a successful transformation. So instead of thinking about getting through the diet for the week. Focus on each day and getting to each meal successfully without cheating. These are smaller more achievable goals but will eventually lead to the final goal you want. This is how I stay motivated when I am preparing to compete at a show, my diet is typically 16 weeks but if I thought about how long that really is, I would give up quickly so instead I focus every day on getting successfully to my next meal with no deviations on my diet. It works!

Another way to motivate yourself as far as fitness is concerned is, if you cannot afford to or do not want to hire a personal trainer, have a workout buddy. Both of you will be accountable to each other. If you are down or not ‘feeling it’, your workout buddy becomes the motivator to get you off your butt into the gym and of course, vice versa. That’s one way to do it.

Now what if you don’t have a friend who can workout with you?

Then you need to motivate yourself but this doesn’t mean you have to continue the journey alone. Welcome to Social Media.

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If you are not already, sign up for Facebook and Instagram and ‘like’ as many fitness pages, as you can and also the pages of fitness users and celebrities.

The tips and motivation from their posts will not only help you to motivate yourself but will also educate you in fitness and health and best of all its all FREE!

Another way to motivate yourself,  which is also another method I use, is using my IPhone or what ever phone you have. I screen shot and save pictures of bodies I admire, not because I want to look like them as we are all unique but to keep me motivated to get my body into the best shape possible. I have even used some pictures as my screen saver! Give it a go, this constant visual reminder is and will be beneficial to you daily.

Now I am not saying that all the things I have mentioned will suddenly make things become super easy, and of course you will still need to dig deep within you, but, remember the reason you started on your body transformation journey. There is always a reason, it is unique to you and you should always remember it.

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There are 25 quotes below to help motivate you. Some you may have read before but it doesn’t matter.

Print out or write out one or two that really resonate with you. Read them before every workout. Read them every time you don’t feel like training. Read them whenever you feel tempted to eat something you shouldn’t. These quotes will help you in the long run.

  • Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.
  • Suck it up… and one day you won’t have to suck it in.
  • When you feel like quitting, think about why you started.
  • Sacrifice is giving up on something good for something better.
  • Discipline is just choosing between what you want now and what you want most.
  • Suffer the pain of discipline or suffer the pain of regret.
  • If you’re tired of starting over, stop giving up.
  • Sweat is fat crying.
  • What you eat in private eventually is what you wear in public.
  • If it’s important to you, you’ll find a way. If it’s not, you’ll find an excuse.
  • If you eat what you have always eaten, you’ll weigh what you have always weighed.
  • If it was easy, everyone would be doing it.
  • Nothing tastes as good as being fit feels.
  • In life you have 3 choices. Give up, give in or give it your all.
  • Excuses burn zero calories.
  • If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you.
  • Pain is temporary. Quitting is forever.
  • You don’t have to be great to start… But you have to start to be great.
  • Nothing will work unless you do.
  • Dead last finish is greater than did not finish, which trumps did not start.
  • Blood, sweat and respect. The first two you give. The last you earn. Give it. Earn it.
  • Life never gets easier. You just get stronger.
  • No rest is worth anything except the rest that is earned.
  • The only bad workout is the one that didn’t happen.

Ultimately, only you can keep the fire within you burning. Don’t give up on yourself. You are all you have got as far as transforming yourself is concerned. The training and discipline may be bitter but the rewards are sweeter than any soda or cake you can ever have. Stay strong. Stay focused. Stay consistent

How to get a bigger butt-Why squats are not working for you.

You only have to go on Facebook or Instagram daily and within a few seconds you will see some post or picture telling you to

“Squat if you want a better butt “ ,

“Shut up and squat”

“Squat for a sexier buttt”

and so on and so forth.

How to get a bigger butt

There is no denying that having  a round, peachy, perky, sexy butt is the BIG thing,  nearly all women want it and men just LOVE a peachy bootay.

As a female  personal trainer I get asked daily by women “ Paulette, please show me how to get a bigger  butt?”

Heck I bet if you are reading this, that may be an area you want to improve on  yourself.

But have you been squatting and not getting the results?

Don’t worry you are not alone, and I will explain to you in this post ,how to get a bigger butt,that sexy butt,that perky sits right up there, stands to attention butt.

how to get a bigger butt

You see,  many of the posts on IG or Facebook are made by those just trying to get more  ‘likes’ and followers, these Instagrammers haven’t got a clue about the mechanics of squatting or training, they haven’t got a clue how to show you or explain to you how to get a bigger butt,they are just jumping on the bandwagon to be another Social Media ‘celebrity’

I am a certified female personal trainer and have been training with weights for over 30 years starting off as part of my training as sprinter many moons ago, so I know both how to explain and show you how to successfully get a bigger butt.

Now before I go any further let me be clear in saying the squat is in my opinion, the best all over body compound exercise there is.

how to get a bigger butt

There is  a reason why it has stood the test of time and will be around forever, it works legs,butt, core and is a badass fat burning exercise all day long.

But this post is not about if the squat is a good exercise or not, IT IS.

This post is to explain to you why you as a female may not be seeing the results you want on your butt from squatting and how by making a few simple changes you will know how to successfully get that bigger firmer, peachy butt.

Let me focus on the back squat,the most popular squat where the  barbell will be resting on the meaty part of the back of shoulders, feet hip width apart.Nothing wrong with this squat, when executed correctly, the lower phase of the squat at it deepest and when coming up out of this lower phase  will or should be activating the glutes

During each repetition you should be able to feel your butt muscles contract  as you begin the upward phase of the move,however you and many women don’t feel this for various reasons but two of the most common reasons are

  1. not squatting deep enough and
  2. transferring the weight to the balls of your feet rather than your heels as you come up.

When you are transferring the weight into the balls of the feet rather than heels, this will mean the weight is being transferred away  from the glutes into the quads (quadriceps,large muscle at the front of the legs) and the quads is an area in most women that is already the  dominant muscle in the legs. Furthermore and I would hedge my bets that you like so many women I know do not want to further develop the quads.

So what to do to ensure you are working your butt more than your quads?

Enter foot placement changes.

Instead of doing a regular back squat you should switch to the sumo squat. The sumo squat is very similar to a basic squat but done with a much wider stance of the legs. This ensures you will be putting, more emphasis on your butt and inner thighs instead of the quads,it ensures you are driving through the heels to come up out of the squat which also ensures you are activating the glutes more than the quads.

Sprinters Butt

Ergo in faster time you will start to notice the development of that perky, toned, sexy bootay that has eluded you for so long with the basic back squat.

But do you know that there are so many different foot placements and stances on so many other exercises that you should be incorporating in your workouts to guarantee you achieve the sexiest butt you could ever want?

If you are serious about obtaining bootay gains don’t hesitate get in contact with me, take action today

Until next time.

Stay healthy


Lose Stomach Fat Fast:You Should Have Listened to Mum

Have you always wanted to know how to lose stomach fat fast?

Did your mum, like mine, nag you at almost every meal time to:

I achieved this is 29 days ! It starts with nutrition
I achieved this is 29 days ! It starts with nutrition



“Eat your vegetables they‘re good for you”
Sound familiar right?






Lose stomach fat fast
Should have listened to mom


Well there are actually some vegetables that are not only good for you in general but can actually help you to  burn belly fat fast.

OK lets just lay down a few important bits of information before I get onto those veggies that lose stomach fat fast.
Do you know that many foods and every days items such as plastic containers, make up, household cleaning products, etc, carry pesticides and other chemicals that can trigger what is known as an estrogen effect.
Estrogen is the hormone that we women have high amounts of in our body, a small amount can also be found in men.

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Estrogen the female hormone

Estrogen , The ‘Female Hormone’

It is for this reason why it is often called the female hormone and  you may or may not know, it is a fat storing hormone….Oh yes indeedy. Hence why we naturally store more fat than men.

Estrogen , a.k.a The ‘Fat Storing Hormone’

When the estrogen effect occurs it forces your body to hold onto belly fat.
But despair not ,there are, as I said at the beginning of the article some vegetables  that can help you to fight off this effect and burn belly fat fast.
These vegetables are called cruciferous vegetables a.k.a Cabbage Family of Vegetables.
To name a few of them we have, broccoli, cauliflower, Brussels sprouts, kale and cabbage.
They are often  referred to as The Super-Veggies, for good reason too. They are excellent at fighting the estrogen effect and will go a long way to helping you  in your goal to burn belly fat fast, so you need to include these in your nutrition on a daily basis .
But there’s more , as well as these Super-Veggies , there are other spices and even teas that you should have in your kitchen cupboards to help you burn belly fat fast.
I read a great article from Mike Geary a fellow  certified nutrition consultant. The link is below its an excellent read.
Checkout what else you can be doing and adding to your daily diet and kitchen cupboards to help you burn belly fat fast. You’ll be surprised that many of these products you have probably walked past a million times in the super market. You may even have them tucked away in your cupboards now.
Just  click the link,  What’s in my cupboards that I need to know about?’ to read the article.

Oh and the morale of the story: Mum is  always right!

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How to Lose Belly Fat Fast. The Best Ab Workouts For Mom’s:REVEALED

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Stubborn Fat Loss FAST

How to lose belly fat? It’s a question you have probably asked yourself and others many times over..As a Fellow mum I know  how it can feel after giving birth. At some stage you just want to get your  tummy back into shape.You may have often asked yourself can I really get it back into shape?
Absolutely. As you may or may know I am a 44 year old mum  that’s me in the pictures.

Nutrition Is Over 80% Towards Getting Great Abs
Abs over 80% created in a UK Kitchen, 20% The Gym!So yes It is possible to get great abs even after becoming a mum ,it really is.OK, the short answer to the  title is ,If you really want to lose belly fat fast don’t focus on ab exercises, you will be wasting your time.
SERIOUSLY.If you haven’t  read my article entitled: go look in your kitchen for great abs’

then I suggest you do here’s the link again:

go look in your kitchen for great abs’

Read it now and then come back and read the remainder of this article where I tell you what workouts are the best to lose belly fat fast.

Alright, so you know that nutrition is  first and foremost the important  aspect for you to lose belly fat fast, once you have that in check you can look at some excellent exercises to  also help you to lose belly  fat and all over body fat.

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Fit Mom Paulette
Should have listened to mom


Simply put your  goal is fat loss and  ab exercises simply do not raise your metabolism enough to be effective.

The key to losing belly fat fast is to perform workouts that have full body exercises  or *compound (*exercises that involve more than one joint ad muscle group working at the same time) exercises such as: squats, lunges, dead lifts, clean & presses, snatches, swings, presses and pulls, mountain climbers, sprinting to name a few.

Squats are A Great Exercise For Fat Loss

When you are following a workout that is made up of these types of exercises your metabolism will shoot through the roof, and you body will very quickly become an efficient fat burning yummy mummy body.There is a place for effective ab exercises in your workout but I emphasise effect exercises. Crunches, sit ups what ever you may call them are one of the least effective exercises to lose belly fat. In my 15 years of being in the fitness industry I have see hundreds of people performing these exercises and the techniques are not only shocking but dangerous especially to the back and spine.


 There are some very effective exercises you can incorporate as well as the ones I have already mentioned. For starters some of the best ab exercises you should be performing regularly are Mountain climbers and jack-knifes

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Go Look In Your Kitchen For Great Abs!

All About Abs

Abs, Tummy, Belly,Stomach!

What ever you may call it, the stomach area is in my experience ,the area of the body that is so greatly misunderstood when one is trying to get it into tip top condition. So just a ‘small’ reminder to you:

“Great Abs are made in

the kitchen the gym is just dessert!!”

If I was given a dime for each time I was asked:

“Paulette, what exercises do you do to get your stomach so flat?”

I would be close to retiring a financially wealthy woman.

There is not an exercise  or a series of exercises in the world, irrespective of how many repetitions you perform, that will give you a flat stomach or six pack if your stomach area is covered by body fat. And to tackle body fat you need to look first and fore most at your nutrition.

Take a read of some of these great articles and program.Read  up and get the knowledge that food companies are failing to tell you. Get the hard honest  facts with no sugar coating on top and get your washboard stomach in fast time.

Healthy fats are not your enemy but many low fat products are

Your Excess Abdominal Fat is Dangerous To Your Health

Prioritise Your Abs In The Kitchen You ARE What You Eat

Great Abs are developed in your Kitchen

 3 So Called Healthy Foods That You Should Stop Eating 

Why Are You Choosing That Diet Soda?

Why Are You Drinking That Diet Soda?
Abs made in a UK Kitchen!
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